Do you sometimes feel like the door to meeting hot women is closed before you even meet her, as if she has ALREADY decided that she's not interested before she even has a chance to even talk with you?
Are you working on your conversation skills, inner game, and banter skills - and making progress - but are still waiting for the highest quality WOMEN out there to notice?
This can happen even to guys who are learning and making a lot of progress in this area.
The truth is, if you're not making the best possible first impression with women you interact with, then you really need to focus in on that one area before you learn about other areas of interacting with women.
Frankly, until you nail down the first impression women are having of you, everything else you learn or study is just going to create MORE frustration for you.
You don't want to become that guy who knows "exactly what to do with an amazing women" if she would only give you that chance.
It's much better to learn skill by getting results along the way - so let's get back to basics and work on that mysterious first impression.
Lot's of well done studies in many areas have concluded that the first impression will have a dramatic affect on the entire interaction two people have.
For example, there is evidence that the outcomes of most job interviews can be predicted amazingly well less then 30 seconds into the interaction.
Similar studies on business networking, sales, and other things show that the time it takes to
accurately decide how you are going to feel about a person is just 4 to 7 SECONDS.
Whats worse, a lot of studies shows even when people are aware that a first impression was unfair and DELIBERATELY try to set it aside, they are UNABLE to.
Think about that.
Basically, all of us tend to 'judge the book by it's cover', and once that judgment is made it
can't really be questioned or reconsidered. This might seem brutally unfair, but the truth
is this is GREAT news for men willing to put this amazing power of the first impression to work for them.
After all, the first impression you make has a HUGE impact on your success in just starting a
conversation with a woman, so why not use that to your ADVANTAGE?
What if you could use that same power that has been slamming the door shut on women you would like to date, and turn the tables so that that same force was opening up avenues with women you never thought possible?
Think about this, when YOU see a woman on the street, you make an almost INSTANT decision on weather or not you want to meet her.
If you're honest with yourself (and you are brutally honest with me here) in some cases you
may even decide right then in that moment whether you want to sleep with her or not.
You may even have a friend who says something like "I'd sleep with her" as soon as he LAYS EYES on a girl he thought was cute.
The 'dirty secret' here is that women do this exact same thing!
Now a woman doesn't DECIDE to sleep with you that quickly, but she DOES make a decision on
whether she would CONSIDER sleeping with you...
And that leads her to decide if she would be willing to talk to you for a while and maybe go out on
a date with you. All before she has even met you. Now, this process may happen quickly for you and the women, but she is using VERY DIFFERENT criteria then you are to make her decision.
For us guys, whether we admit it or not, the process is almost completely visual. It's how cute she is and what her body is like. The good news is, things you CAN'T easily change,
like your physical looks and your age, don't really matter to her.
That's not so important for women, because women aren't as visual as men are. Instead, women are empathethic. When a woman looks at you as a man, instead of noticing how attractive your facial features and physical body are, she will notice how you FEEL. That's right, she can tell in an instant exactly how you are feeling in that moment.
In fact she does this automatically, similar to the way a man 'checks out' a woman's physical appearance. So what is she looking for?
Well, obviously there are lot's of things.
Some women want a man who appears successful at whatever he does, some women want men who appears successful at business or in his career. Some women want a guy who seems smart, other women just want a guy who is fun to be around. And yes, some women even care about what a guy looks like - to an extent. Bu the one thing ALL women crave deep down, is
a man with CONFIDENCE.
After all, as females developed over time, the types of things they depended on males for
varied greatly. Now, I don't want to get all 'Animal Kingdom' on you here, but I DO want to point out that as females evolved they depended on males for a wide range of things.
Some females needed a strong male to fight off predators, others needed males that were fast. Then they needed a male with the best sense of smell to find prey, or the male with the best social skills as hunting became a group effort.
With each species, the most attractive trait for males seemed to shift. And things didn't get any better for women today. As a girl grows up into a woman, the things she is taught is 'attractive' in a man goes through several phases. All through a womans life a women is exposed to all
sorts of differing opinions on what makes a man attractive.
So what did women do?
They adapted.
a date with you. All before she has even met you. Now, this process may happen quickly for you and the women, but she is using VERY DIFFERENT criteria then you are to make her decision.
For us guys, whether we admit it or not, the process is almost completely visual. It's how cute she is and what her body is like. The good news is, things you CAN'T easily change,
like your physical looks and your age, don't really matter to her.
That's not so important for women, because women aren't as visual as men are. Instead, women are empathethic. When a woman looks at you as a man, instead of noticing how attractive your facial features and physical body are, she will notice how you FEEL. That's right, she can tell in an instant exactly how you are feeling in that moment.
In fact she does this automatically, similar to the way a man 'checks out' a woman's physical appearance. So what is she looking for?
Well, obviously there are lot's of things.
Some women want a man who appears successful at whatever he does, some women want men who appears successful at business or in his career. Some women want a guy who seems smart, other women just want a guy who is fun to be around. And yes, some women even care about what a guy looks like - to an extent. Bu the one thing ALL women crave deep down, is
a man with CONFIDENCE.
After all, as females developed over time, the types of things they depended on males for
varied greatly. Now, I don't want to get all 'Animal Kingdom' on you here, but I DO want to point out that as females evolved they depended on males for a wide range of things.
Some females needed a strong male to fight off predators, others needed males that were fast. Then they needed a male with the best sense of smell to find prey, or the male with the best social skills as hunting became a group effort.
With each species, the most attractive trait for males seemed to shift. And things didn't get any better for women today. As a girl grows up into a woman, the things she is taught is 'attractive' in a man goes through several phases. All through a womans life a women is exposed to all
sorts of differing opinions on what makes a man attractive.
So what did women do?
They adapted.
Over the millions of years of evolution, and decades of development from a little girl to a full grown women, women have decided that the BEST way to tell if you can give then what they want, is to ask YOU! Whatever it is they are looking for, they notice that the guys who CAN'T provide it are slinking away, while the guys who CAN give them want they want are beaming with confidence as if to say, "I'm your man."
And in there experience, when a man seems confident that he can give her what she craves, she gets the message loud and clear. And women get that message from you, for better or for worse, loud and clear every time they see you for the first time and notice how confident you are as
you move through the world. And if you are talking them, or some other hot women, then they will notice how confident you are in that moment as well. And that is part of the reason that First Impressions are so powerful.
You can get my best tips for building the real and lasting confidence in my ebook: contact me at ValueArts@gmail.com.
And in there experience, when a man seems confident that he can give her what she craves, she gets the message loud and clear. And women get that message from you, for better or for worse, loud and clear every time they see you for the first time and notice how confident you are as
you move through the world. And if you are talking them, or some other hot women, then they will notice how confident you are in that moment as well. And that is part of the reason that First Impressions are so powerful.
You can get my best tips for building the real and lasting confidence in my ebook: contact me at ValueArts@gmail.com.
Now go meet some women,
Your friend,
Donn Wann
Your friend,
Donn Wann
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