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7 Steps to NOT to get a Girl by New Year’s, Part 1 of 3 (because I’m lazy)

2008-12-29T01:47:00.006+08:00

Everyone needs a break, that means even you, Champ!

In the event you become sick and tired of girls and prefer the occasional break. Let’s review 7 steps to total freedom and escape from girls for this New Year’s. Sometimes, gaming is more important.

1) Be unkempt. Put a paper bag over your head. Wear the shirts you always wear and judge yourself. You want to be brutually honest with yourself. Are you dressing up properly? Are your shirts pressed and color-coordinated? We have a problem; girls will notice you. If that happens, you increase your likelihood in getting a girl. And we don’t want that. So junk that coolness.

2) Slouch just a wee bit more. If you are standing properly and gaining stature because of your awesome posture, people notice you. You will exude sexy confidence which is highly attractive to women. This posture is the male equivalent of a “hot girl”. And you know what it is like being a person in demand, you won’t have time for your games! New Year parties are such hassle next time. So slouch that shoulder some more to show that you hate taking up space. Walk around passively, or at least try to be. This will give you bonus points in the area of unattractiveness. Your plan’s working.

3) Don’t care about her feelings. This is a biggie. Many potential gamers who fail to convert to game-hood were because they emphasize with women. These guys understood what’s it like being them without having a hidden agenda. And the women dig that! Are you one of them too? I feel sad for you. You will be consumed with outings creating lots of emotional connection with so many women because they see you as giving love. And in this culture, whoever gives loves, wins. But you don’t want to win in the game of love, you prefer completing your RPG. So here’s the solution, ditch these skills. Act like a dork, socially awkward person who flirts too much, appears slick, and too “greasy”. Allow me to guarantee you that you can successfully weed girls out of your back at the snap of your finger.

There you have it, first 3 tips on winning the battle against girls so that you have some time with yourself. Gosh, sometimes you just want some quiet time with your Xbox 360. That thing costs a bomb! With these 3 methods, most girls will leave you almost immediately. And there’s even a guarantee, their departure is not temporary, it’s permanent. Further, they will share with their friends how much of a stuffed up punk you are that you no longer get calls from ‘her’ friends. You hated those booty calls anyway. Are these 3 techniques not enough to ward off the persistent girl? Wait for Part 2 where I will show you ingenious ways to NOT get a girl for New Year's! Please wait for the subsequent parts!

A Great Short Movie

2008-12-24T13:48:00.009+08:00

Please allow me to share with you this video. I strongly believe this is the essence of pick-up. A celebration of people. I lead my life with this simple gem. Spare 16 mins 23 secs. And leave a comment!

p.s. Don't do what he does though. Ill elaborate more in my next entry!

How to Make Women Receptive to You?

2008-12-23T23:44:00.012+08:00

Do you sometimes feel like the door to meeting hot women is closed before you even meet her, as if she has ALREADY decided that she's not interested before she even has a chance to even talk with you?

Are you working on your conversation skills, inner game, and banter skills - and making progress - but are still waiting for the highest quality WOMEN out there to notice?

This can happen even to guys who are learning and making a lot of progress in this area.

The truth is, if you're not making the best possible first impression with women you interact with, then you really need to focus in on that one area before you learn about other areas of interacting with women.

Frankly, until you nail down the first impression women are having of you, everything else you learn or study is just going to create MORE frustration for you.

You don't want to become that guy who knows "exactly what to do with an amazing women" if she would only give you that chance.

It's much better to learn skill by getting results along the way - so let's get back to basics and work on that mysterious first impression.

Lot's of well done studies in many areas have concluded that the first impression will have a dramatic affect on the entire interaction two people have.

For example, there is evidence that the outcomes of most job interviews can be predicted amazingly well less then 30 seconds into the interaction.

Similar studies on business networking, sales, and other things show that the time it takes to
accurately decide how you are going to feel about a person is just 4 to 7 SECONDS.

Whats worse, a lot of studies shows even when people are aware that a first impression was unfair and DELIBERATELY try to set it aside, they are UNABLE to.

Think about that.

Basically, all of us tend to 'judge the book by it's cover', and once that judgment is made it
can't really be questioned or reconsidered. This might seem brutally unfair, but the truth
is this is GREAT news for men willing to put this amazing power of the first impression to work for them.

After all, the first impression you make has a HUGE impact on your success in just starting a
conversation with a woman, so why not use that to your ADVANTAGE?

What if you could use that same power that has been slamming the door shut on women you would like to date, and turn the tables so that that same force was opening up avenues with women you never thought possible?

Think about this, when YOU see a woman on the street, you make an almost INSTANT decision on weather or not you want to meet her.

If you're honest with yourself (and you are brutally honest with me here) in some cases you
may even decide right then in that moment whether you want to sleep with her or not.

You may even have a friend who says something like "I'd sleep with her" as soon as he LAYS EYES on a girl he thought was cute.

The 'dirty secret' here is that women do this exact same thing!

Now a woman doesn't DECIDE to sleep with you that quickly, but she DOES make a decision on
whether she would CONSIDER sleeping with you...

And that leads her to decide if she would be willing to talk to you for a while and maybe go out on
a date with you. All before she has even met you. Now, this process may happen quickly for you and the women, but she is using VERY DIFFERENT criteria then you are to make her decision.

For us guys, whether we admit it or not, the process is almost completely visual. It's how cute she is and what her body is like. The good news is, things you CAN'T easily change,
like your physical looks and your age, don't really matter to her.

That's not so important for women, because women aren't as visual as men are. Instead, women are empathethic. When a woman looks at you as a man, instead of noticing how attractive your facial features and physical body are, she will notice how you FEEL. That's right, she can tell in an instant exactly how you are feeling in that moment.

In fact she does this automatically, similar to the way a man 'checks out' a woman's physical appearance. So what is she looking for?

Well, obviously there are lot's of things.

Some women want a man who appears successful at whatever he does, some women want men who appears successful at business or in his career. Some women want a guy who seems smart, other women just want a guy who is fun to be around. And yes, some women even care about what a guy looks like - to an extent. Bu the one thing ALL women crave deep down, is
a man with CONFIDENCE.

After all, as females developed over time, the types of things they depended on males for
varied greatly. Now, I don't want to get all 'Animal Kingdom' on you here, but I DO want to point out that as females evolved they depended on males for a wide range of things.

Some females needed a strong male to fight off predators, others needed males that were fast. Then they needed a male with the best sense of smell to find prey, or the male with the best social skills as hunting became a group effort.

With each species, the most attractive trait for males seemed to shift. And things didn't get any better for women today. As a girl grows up into a woman, the things she is taught is 'attractive' in a man goes through several phases. All through a womans life a women is exposed to all
sorts of differing opinions on what makes a man attractive.

So what did women do?

They adapted.

Over the millions of years of evolution, and decades of development from a little girl to a full grown women, women have decided that the BEST way to tell if you can give then what they want, is to ask YOU! Whatever it is they are looking for, they notice that the guys who CAN'T provide it are slinking away, while the guys who CAN give them want they want are beaming with confidence as if to say, "I'm your man."

And in there experience, when a man seems confident that he can give her what she craves, she gets the message loud and clear. And women get that message from you, for better or for worse, loud and clear every time they see you for the first time and notice how confident you are as
you move through the world. And if you are talking them, or some other hot women, then they will notice how confident you are in that moment as well. And that is part of the reason that First Impressions are so powerful.

You can get my best tips for building the real and lasting confidence in my ebook: contact me at ValueArts@gmail.com.

Now go meet some women,

Your friend,
Donn Wann

p.s. Im soft-launching my secret tips book on how to get a date before New Year's. There's a 8 months gaurantee. This is to show that I am not out to get your money. Its is going for SGD 37 instead of SGD 107. Email me quick to purchase one. I'll send you the billing details.

p.p.s. please send your dating queries to this place too and I'll try my best to reply.

p.p.p.s I limit the book to 400 copies too. (edit 130 left).

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This could be why You are still Single for New Year’s…

2008-12-21T16:23:00.006+08:00

New Year’s is round the corner. Will you be going out to hang out with your friends? New Year’s is a special time as we celebrate with friends and family. In Asian cultures, I see this festival as a friends-festival. Thus, everyone would be letting their guard down a bit. Yes, it is strange walking up to a stranger to say hi; our society just doesn’t allow that. This stigma is, fortunately, lowered during festivals and parties. Making it an excellent opportunity to get to know more friends.

Are you shy in meeting women? Do you get tongue-tied a lot? Well, though this is not a cure-all, let me offer you a quick solution if you are—just in time for New Year’s (this is not a long term solution though).

1) Stand up straight. There are multiple ways to stand up straight. But the most accessible one which requires little practice is to stand against the wall. After you do that, let your heels, butt, and shoulders touch the wall. Strenuous? Betcha it does. Now, take a step in front and this is the perfect posture that you need to be in. Naturally it will be hard at first, but always keep this in mind and you will convey confidence and status.

2) You need to understand how attraction happens. Stopping short of giving a blow by blow account of what constitutes attraction, it is safe to know that women are more attracted to status, confidence, and dominance while we are attracted to physical beauty.

3) In mate selection, researchers have discovered something very pivotal: it’s called social proof. When I read it, I thought it was such a warped idea. It being a warped idea doesn’t make it false. Women judge you by the women you hang out with. Thus, find your prettiest friends and be friends with them. Go in for the long haul. Don’t just date every girl you see. Cultivate a social circle of fun, interesting, and adventurous friends (guys and women). This gesture alone will allow you to be cooler even though you didn’t do anything! Amazing, but true.

With these 3 quick methods and knowledge, I hope that you will jumpstart your dating life for New Year’s.

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20 fantastic date ideas under $20. Part 1 of 2.

2008-12-20T21:28:00.007+08:00

On a budget? Still a student, maybe? Bummed by the economic situation but still need love? Fret not. If you still want to date and lead an interested lifestyle then I have 20 ideas under $20. And who says dating can’t be awesome and cheap:

Visit the Museum: Museums are fun, engaging, and often decently quiet enough for fun conversations. Coupled with free admission on certain days. You still have enough to grab drinks afterwards. Two dates. Double whammy.
Stroll the botanical Gardens: Have perfect weather where you live? Visit the gardens for a relaxing and engaging walk with the partner. Cost, zero dollars.
Go on a hike: Visit the local grocer for cheap wine and strawberries and whipped cream. Then hike around the parks and surprise her with an interesting experience. Maybe not whipped cream, dont mind me. To the next point!
Visit art-house cinemas: They are more eclectic and few people visit them. Catch interesting movies which both of you don’t have any knowledge about.
Walk around your neighborhood: Visit small shops, play with nostalgic toys, and pick up a brochure at the visitor centres to discover even more.
Visit a costume shop: Have a fun filled day at the costume shop dressing up and having fun. Promise the sales assistant that you will be nice though. You won’t want to be chased out.
Go on a cheap picnic: Pick up some cheap wine, arm yourself with sandwich and spend some time getting to know each other.
Visit a toy store: Become a kid again, play with the bears, jostle, or even buy bubbles to play to rekindle both of your past. It is fantastic.
Try a sport that both of you has no idea about: Have you tried bowling, or miniature golf, or even cable skiing? To show your vulnerable side ( assuming you are dominant usually ) is highly attractive.
Challenge each other at the arcade: Challenge each other at air hockey, or basketball shootout, and heck challenge her to catch a toy from you from one of the game stations. Its tons of fun with minimal expenditure.

This concludes part 1 of the 2 parter of prudent dates. Dates are not about the expenses paid. Its about knowing your date. Once again, have tons of fun!

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3 Reasons Why the Movie+Dinner is Dead

2008-12-20T20:29:00.003+08:00

Brought your first date to a movie+dinner recently? How was the experience? Did it leave a dent in your wallet? Was it too awkward with moments of dead air and harsh silence between both of you? It’s not your fault. Disband with this boring date idea. These are the reasons why:

1) It sets an expectation. Assuming that it is your first date, having a movie+dinner date is the most cliché aka unoriginal date ever. Before touching upon how uncreative you can be, let’s talk about the expectations that you engender in your date. She needs to be on her best behavior because you have subscribed her to the traditional date idea. And because she is too conscientious, she won’t be having fun.

2) It’s boring. Yes, I know that you are interesting, but the setting up of a movie+dinner date only shouts B.O.R.I.N.G. It’s too cliché and the date will automatically slot you to the type of guys(aka Mr Nice Guy) who bring her to such yawn-worthy dates

3) It is expensive. ‘Nuff said. Bring her to a picnic. It’s better.

Don’t be the boring guy. I’ll show you how next post.

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